Human-Kind. Isn’t that lovely. We have moved away from the patriarchal term mankind – ‘man’ who has not always been ‘kind’, necessarily – toward equality between the sexes and acknowledging gender fluidity. Noah touches on this. If you’re interested in the evolution of humanity and how we are capable of co-operating as a global community, give this book a go. You may experience information overload – but when condensing 2.4 million years into less than 500 pages, Harari goes alright. I’m someone who didn’t pay attention to history at school so I found this book enlightening, empowering and also disheartening at times. Harari writes about the breakthroughs of the Cognitive, Agricultural and Scientific Revolutions. The power of human imagination, math and language has been instrumental in the development of humankind into an apex predator, and the destruction of everything else.
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Are you feeling Restless, Irritable, and Discontent?Are you feeling Restless, Irritable, and Discontent?
I would infer that you may be depleted in some area of your life. Generally, when I am having any of these experiences I can recognise that my basic needs, and possibly even transformative, needs are not met. My basic needs are food and water, adequate sleep, shelter and safety, social connection (belonging), and esteem needs (e.g., self-respect, self-worth, self-competence, mastery and achievement, integrity, sense of freedom and independence etc.). Perhaps only when all my deficiency needs are met, and I’m experiencing dissatisfaction with my growth needs, do I feel Restless, Irritable, and Discontent in this area of my life – however I assume some would argue that if I am feeling that way when attending to my growth needs, then I may have slipped back to Esteem Needs. You can look up Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs for a visual representation if you like, using a search engine. Below is a GIF that I created to educate people on how we can buffer ourselves to vulnerabilities. It’s very telling to go into the body when we haven’t eat for a while, may be we’re running on caffeine, and you can feel the restlessness in the body. We have to fuel up when we’re hungry to buffer ourselves from becoming irritable and restless. If you’re feeling discontent with life, I would suggest a social activity, play time with friends, working on a project of some kind, or getting involved in your community.
What is love and how do I know if I’m in love?What is love and how do I know if I’m in love?
Love isn’t a single chemical but it does involve powerful chemicals in your body. When people say “love is just chemicals,” that’s oversimplified. Love is a complex emotional and psychological experience, but it’s strongly influenced by brain chemistry.
Here are the main chemicals involved:
1. Dopamine — the reward chemical
This is linked to pleasure, motivation, and craving. When you’re attracted to someone, dopamine spikes, which is why love can feel exciting, addictive, and energising.
2. Oxytocin — the bonding hormone
Often called the “love hormone.” It’s released during physical touch, cuddling, sex, and even deep conversation. It helps create feelings of trust, attachment, and emotional closeness.
3. Vasopressin — attachment chemical
Plays a role in long-term bonding and pair attachment, especially in committed relationships.
4. Serotonin — mood regulator (also influences sleep, appetite, digestion and cognition)
Serotonin activity (or “signalling”) can shift during early romantic attraction, which may explain why you obsessively think about someone in the early stages.
5. Adrenaline & norepinephrine
These create the physical symptoms: racing heart, sweaty palms, butterflies.
Love isn’t just chemistry — but chemistry is part of how your brain creates the feeling. Think of it like this:
- Chemicals are the mechanism.
- Love is the experience.
Being “in love” isn’t always a big, dramatic lightning-bolt moment. It’s usually a mix of feelings, attachment, and a steady choice to be with someone. Here are some signs that often point to real love rather than just attraction or a crush:
1. You care about who they are, not just how they make you feel
You genuinely admire their character, values and quirks — even their flaws. You’re not just chasing the excitement; you actually like them as a person.
2. Their happiness matters to you
You want good things for them, even when it doesn’t directly benefit you. When they’re struggling, it affects you too.
3. You feel safe being yourself
You don’t feel like you have to put on an act. You can be honest, vulnerable and imperfect, and still feel accepted.
4. You naturally think long-term
When you picture the future, they’re in it — not because you’re forcing it, but because it just feels right.
5. It’s not only intense — it’s steady
A crush can feel all butterflies and nerves.
Love often feels calmer underneath it all — grounded, warm and secure.
6. You choose them
Even on the ordinary days. Even when they annoy you a bit. Love isn’t just a feeling; it’s a consistent decision to stay connected. A couple of questions you might ask yourself:
- If the excitement settled down, would I still want them around?
- Do I respect them?
- Do I feel more like myself with them — or less?
Love doesn’t always feel dramatic. Sometimes it’s quiet and steady — and that can be just as real.
