I would infer that you may be depleted in some area of your life. Generally, when I am having any of these experiences I can recognise that my basic needs, and possibly even transformative, needs are not met. My basic needs are food and water, adequate sleep, shelter and safety, social connection (belonging), and esteem needs (e.g., self-respect, self-worth, self-competence, mastery and achievement, integrity, sense of freedom and independence etc.). Perhaps only when all my deficiency needs are met, and I’m experiencing dissatisfaction with my growth needs, do I feel Restless, Irritable, and Discontent in this area of my life – however I assume some would argue that if I am feeling that way when attending to my growth needs, then I may have slipped back to Esteem Needs. You can look up Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs for a visual representation if you like, using a search engine. Below is a GIF that I created to educate people on how we can buffer ourselves to vulnerabilities. It’s very telling to go into the body when we haven’t eat for a while, may be we’re running on caffeine, and you can feel the restlessness in the body. We have to fuel up when we’re hungry to buffer ourselves from becoming irritable and restless. If you’re feeling discontent with life, I would suggest a social activity, play time with friends, working on a project of some kind, or getting involved in your community.

Addiction is a chronic, relapsing disorder involving changes in brain reward, motivation, learning, stress and executive control systems. While different substances (and behaviours) act through distinct primary mechanisms, they converge on common neurobiological pathways — particularly the mesocorticolimbic dopamine system.

Below is an overview in Australian English of the core mechanisms and then substance-specific and behavioural addiction processes.

Core Neurobiological Pathways in Addiction

1. The Mesocorticolimbic Dopamine System

The central pathway implicated in addiction is the mesocorticolimbic circuit, involving:

• Ventral tegmental area (VTA)
• Nucleus accumbens (NAc)
• Prefrontal cortex (PFC)
• Amygdala
• Hippocampus

All addictive drugs increase dopamine transmission in the nucleus accumbens, either directly or indirectly. Dopamine does not simply produce pleasure — it encodes reward prediction, salience and learning. With repeated exposure:

• Drug-related cues gain exaggerated salience
• Natural rewards become less reinforcing
• Behaviour becomes increasingly habitual and compulsive

2. Neuroadaptation and Allostasis

Repeated substance exposure produces:

Tolerance — Reduced response due to receptor downregulation or neurotransmitter depletion.

Dependence — Neuroadaptations that produce withdrawal when the substance is removed.

Allostatic shift — The brain’s reward set point shifts downward, mediated by stress systems (e.g. corticotropin-releasing factor), resulting in dysphoria during abstinence.

3. Habit Formation and Loss of Control

With repeated use:

• Control shifts from ventral striatum (goal-directed) to dorsal striatum (habit-based)
• Prefrontal cortex regulation weakens
• Impulsivity and compulsivity increase

Substance-Specific Mechanisms

Alcohol

Alcohol acts on multiple neurotransmitter systems:

• Enhances GABA-A receptor function (inhibitory)
• Inhibits NMDA glutamate receptors (excitatory)
• Increases dopamine release in nucleus accumbens
• Affects endogenous opioid systems

Chronic exposure leads to:

• GABA downregulation
• NMDA upregulation
• Hyperexcitable state during withdrawal (risk of seizures, delirium tremens)

Alcohol dependence also involves stress system activation and impaired frontal cortical control.

Methamphetamine

Methamphetamine is a potent psychostimulant that:

• Enters presynaptic terminals
• Reverses the dopamine transporter (DAT), causing carrier-mediated dopamine efflux
• Inhibits vesicular monoamine transporter 2 (VMAT2), releasing dopamine from synaptic vesicles into the cytoplasm
• Causes massive dopamine release into the synapse

It also increases noradrenaline and serotonin.

Chronic use causes:

• Dopamine neurotoxicity (particularly to dopaminergic terminals)
• Reduced dopamine transporter availability
• Structural changes in striatum and PFC
• Persistent cognitive deficits

Methamphetamine produces particularly strong sensitisation of cue-driven craving.

Cocaine

Cocaine:

• Blocks the dopamine transporter (DAT), preventing reuptake
• Increases synaptic dopamine concentration

Unlike methamphetamine, cocaine acts by blocking DAT rather than reversing it, and does not cause large presynaptic vesicular release — the elevation in synaptic dopamine arises from impaired clearance.

Repeated use leads to:

• Dopamine receptor downregulation
• Enhanced cue reactivity
• Rapid cycling between intoxication and crash
• Strong psychological dependence

Opioids (e.g. heroin, morphine, oxycodone)

Opioids act primarily at mu-opioid receptors (MORs), which are expressed throughout the brain, including in the VTA. Their dopaminergic effects arise through multiple mechanisms:

• MORs on GABAergic interneurons in the VTA suppress inhibitory tone, thereby disinhibiting dopamine neurons (the classical disinhibition mechanism)
• MORs are also expressed on VTA dopamine neurons and projection targets directly, contributing additional excitatory drive beyond the disinhibition pathway

They also act in brainstem respiratory centres, which underlies the risk of respiratory depression in overdose.

Chronic use produces:

• Receptor desensitisation and internalisation
• Reduced endogenous opioid production
• Severe physical withdrawal mediated by noradrenergic rebound in the locus coeruleus
• Strong negative reinforcement (use to avoid withdrawal)

Cannabis

Δ9-tetrahydrocannabinol (THC):

• Activates CB1 receptors (the primary psychoactive cannabinoid receptor)
• Modulates GABA and glutamate release at presynaptic terminals
• Indirectly increases dopamine in NAc via disinhibitory mechanisms

Cannabis produces:

• Altered endocannabinoid system function
• CB1 receptor downregulation with chronic use
• A mild to moderate withdrawal syndrome (irritability, sleep disturbance, appetite changes)
• Effects on hippocampal memory circuits

While addiction risk is generally considered lower than for opioids or stimulants, it remains clinically significant and may be underestimated, particularly given the widespread availability of high-potency THC products (e.g. concentrates and high-THC flower), which are associated with greater dependence risk and more severe withdrawal.

MDMA (Ecstasy)

MDMA:

• Reverses the serotonin transporter (SERT), causing massive serotonin efflux — this is its primary mechanism
• Also increases dopamine and noradrenaline

Neurobiological consequences include:

• Acute empathogenic and entactogenic effects driven by serotonin release
• Post-use serotonin depletion, which may contribute to dysphoria in the days following use
• Potential serotonergic neurotoxicity, though this evidence comes largely from high-dose or repeated animal studies; the clinical significance in typical human recreational use remains under debate and is not definitively established
• Moderate addictive potential relative to psychostimulants, partly because dopaminergic effects are less prominent than with cocaine or methamphetamine

Prescription Psychoactive Medications

Certain prescribed medications also have addictive potential:

Benzodiazepines — Enhance GABA-A receptor activity. Cause tolerance via receptor downregulation. Dependence is primarily a GABAergic adaptation. Withdrawal can be protracted and, in cases of high-dose or long-term use, may produce seizures.

Prescription stimulants — Act via similar mechanisms to amphetamine, increasing dopamine and noradrenaline. Risk of misuse exists in susceptible individuals, though therapeutic doses in appropriately diagnosed patients are associated with substantially lower addiction risk than recreational use.

Behavioural (Process) Addictions

Gambling Disorder

Gambling disorder is recognised in DSM-5-TR as a non-substance-related addictive disorder. Although no substance is ingested, similar neurobiological mechanisms are involved.

Dopamine and reward prediction error — Near misses activate the nucleus accumbens similarly to wins. Variable ratio reinforcement schedules (as in poker machines) generate strong, unpredictable dopamine prediction error signalling that powerfully drives continued behaviour.

Cue reactivity — Gambling-related cues activate the same mesocorticolimbic circuitry as drug cues, with increased striatal activation and reduced prefrontal inhibitory control.

Habit circuitry — A shift from ventral to dorsal striatal control contributes to compulsive betting despite continued losses.

Other Emerging Behavioural Addictions

Conditions such as internet gaming disorder, compulsive sexual behaviour disorder, and problematic social media use share overlapping neurobiological features including:

• Dopamine dysregulation and sensitisation to cue salience
• Reduced executive control
• Stress system activation

However, the evidence base for most of these conditions is still developing, and their classification as formal addictive disorders remains an area of active research and debate. Internet gaming disorder is currently listed in DSM-5-TR as a condition for further study.

Shared Neurobiological Themes Across Addictions

Across substances and behaviours, addiction involves:

• Dopamine sensitisation to cues
• Reduced sensitivity to natural rewards
• Impaired prefrontal inhibitory control
• Stress system overactivation (particularly corticotropin-releasing factor)
• Habit circuitry dominance (dorsal striatum)
• Neuroplastic changes in glutamatergic signalling

Why Some Substances Are More Addictive

Addictive potential is influenced by multiple interacting factors. The speed of dopamine rise is one of the most studied — faster onset of dopamine elevation (e.g. via smoking or intravenous administration) is associated with stronger reinforcement. This framework, developed largely through the work of Volkow and colleagues, has strong empirical support, though it represents a mechanistic model rather than an established universal law. Other important factors include:

• Intensity of dopamine release
• Pharmacokinetics (e.g. route of administration)
• Withdrawal severity (which drives negative reinforcement)
• Social and environmental context
• Genetic vulnerability (heritability of addiction is estimated at 40–60% across substances)

Conclusion

Addiction is not simply about pleasure seeking. It reflects maladaptive neuroplasticity in reward, stress, learning and executive control circuits. While alcohol, methamphetamine, cannabis, opioids, cocaine and MDMA each act through different primary molecular mechanisms, they converge on common neural pathways that drive craving, tolerance, withdrawal and compulsive use. Behavioural addictions such as gambling engage these same circuits despite the absence of an ingested substance.

The neurobiological understanding of addiction continues to evolve, and where evidence is still emerging — particularly regarding emerging behavioural addictions and the long-term neurotoxic effects of substances like MDMA — clinical interpretation should be appropriately cautious.

Emotional intelligence is defined as the ability to understand and regulate your own emotions, as well as identify and influence the emotions of others’. The term was first coined in 1990 by researchers John Mayer and Peter Salovey and was later popularised by psychologist Daniel Goleman.

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability perceive, control, and evaluate your emotions. Some people can do this with ease while others require practice in this area. This ability is necessary for anyone who wants to function effectively in a society – it pertains directly to our ability to interact well with others and respond effectively when situations are outside our control.

EI is best described as a way of thinking that enables people to perceive their own emotions, understand the emotional states of others, and behave appropriately in response (Cherry, 2022). People with high EI can feel empathy for others, determine their own emotional responses (including the process of suppressing an emotion as a defence mechanism), and think through situations before responding emotionally. Emotional intelligence is strongly linked to many positive outcomes. Those with high EI are likely to become financially stable, have meaningful and healthy relationships, respond effectively to stress, and maintain desirable physical and mental health (Salovey & Mayer, 1990). They are also likely to avoid dangerous situations (such as driving under the influence), interrupt negative thinking patterns, and use healthy coping skills rather than self-destructive or maladaptive coping mechanisms.

Here are some key features of a person with high emotional intelligence (Drigas & Papoutsi 2018):
– An ability to identify how they are feeling (i.e., the can name what they’re feeling)
– An ability to identify how others are feeling
– An awareness of strengths and weaknesses
– The ability to let go of mistakes and forgive others
– The ability to accept change
– Curiosity about oneself and others
– The capacity for empathy and compassion
– The ability to regulate emotions in the moment

The ability to regulate emotions is a skill that anybody can learn with practice.

How to develop emotional intelligence

The following tips may be helpful if you’re interested in developing or improving your emotional intelligence. Pioneers in the field Salovey and Mayer (1990) have identified four levels of emotional intelligence that are person should aim to move through in order – these are:

1. Perceiving emotions: The first step is to be able to acknowledge that emotions are occurring in the first place. This might involve understanding nonverbal signals from other people or associating internal bodily states with certain emotions. Some clients, especially those who have suffered from trauma, may have a sense of detachment from their bodies, making it difficult to discern emotional states. As such, this lack of internal data will make it harder to recognize emotional states in others. Practicing mindfulness and other self-awareness exercises can help clients to perceive their emotions more effectively.

2. Reasoning with emotions: Once an emotion has been identified, the second step is to learn how to think about emotions appropriately. Many people will shut down in the presence of strong emotions, but emotions can be used to promote thinking and cognitive activity. Developing a sense of curiosity and openness toward emotions can help to facilitate this process, and result in less aversion towards certain experiences.

3. Understanding emotions: The third step is understanding the meaning of emotions in more detail and recognising complex relationships between different emotions. Once emotions are perceived and reasoned with, a person can evaluate them and find the underlying causes of them. This is where emotional intelligence really starts to develop, as it fosters the ability to become less reactive to emotional content and learn to listen deeply to emotions and discern their origins.

4. Managing emotions: Finally, in the fourth step we learn to regulate emotions effectively. This involves a person developing their ability to problem-solve and identify healthy coping strategies for dealing with an emotion. It also involves being able to use the skills learnt in previous steps – perceiving, reasoning, and understanding – to resolve emotional conflicts peacefully. This is the highest level of emotional intelligence.

Generally, building emotional awareness through mindfulness helps to propagate EI within oneself, and learning to perceive nonverbal cues helps to attend to others; outlines of these two angles are as follows:

Building Emotional Awareness

Perceiving emotions is the foundational skill of emotional intelligence, and mindfulness has been identified by research as being one of the most efficacious ways of developing this capacity. Mindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgement or interference. Mindfulness is correlated with greater clarity of feelings and thoughts, and less reactivity and distraction, making it the perfect catalyst for emotional intelligence (Feldman et al., 2007).

Mindfulness generally involves meditative exercises; you sit or lay down, and use the breath and other sensations (i.e., the feeling of feet on the floor, or sounds in the room) to anchor into the experience. As you enter an observational state, encourage yourself to simply notice how your experiences arise, change, and pass away. When using mindfulness to develop emotional awareness, specifically connect to your emotional state. The key focus here is not necessarily on the breath or on acceptance, as per common mindfulness strategies; rather, simply become familiar with the process of having and noticing feelings. If you have difficulty identifying your emotions, try to explore the characteristics of your emotions such as where it is located in the body, how it feels (e.g., warm, cold), how big or small it feels, or perhaps what colour they associate with it.

Regularly performing this exercise will habituate the brain to approach emotions with curiosity rather than avoiding or repressing them. As such, the processes of emotional functioning will become more familiar, resulting in greater emotional intelligence.

Decoding Emotions by Analysing Speech, Body, and Face

Created by Hugo Alberts, this exercise helps people to accurately identify and understand the emotions of other people through ‘reading’ their body language and other nonverbal cues. This is a very valuable skill, as research has shown that cultures all around the world express emotions through similar facial expressions (Friesen, 1972). Similarly, it has been found that deciphering body language can accurately provide insight into emotional states such as anger, fear, pride, joy, and more (Gelder & van der Stock, 2011). Speech patterns are a more nuanced area than body language and facial expressions, but valuable nonetheless; people use thousands of micro semantic terms to express their emotions beyond the words themselves (Sabini & Silver, 2005). By learning to attune to these three aspects of communication (i.e., face, body, speech), a person will be able to exercise enhanced emotional intelligence with the people in their life.

One activity to develop this skill is to use videos that you are familiar with (e.g., films or tv shows) and to spend time evaluating how the actors use speech, body, and face to communicate their emotions. Depending on your current level of EI, you might be able to identify the emotions being expressed but not understand the role of nonverbal cues to communicate this. Another strategy would be to become more self-aware of your own nonverbal conduct during different emotional experiences. Notice your posture, get a sense of your facial expression, notice your stance, hands, chest etc. You could keep a journal of what your speech, face, and body language is like during various experiences throughout the day. Over time, you will come to understand how to decipher these elements and associate them with emotional states. Please be patient with yourself. It is challenging to mindfully pause and think about your nonverbal language when you’re caught in an emotional experience. You may like to ask others whom you trust to give you feedback.

Additional skills

Having covered the internal (emotional awareness through mindfulness) and the external (nonverbal cues), you can then use these new understandings to develop further practical skills. A person can embody emotional intelligence by practicing empathy, active listening, and assertiveness.

Empathy

Empathy is the capacity to understand another person’s experience through their frame of reference (Cuff et al., 2014). Whilst an aspect of empathy is being able to relate other people’s experiences to your own, it is further positioning yourself within the other person’s perspective and relating to them from that place. This is what is meant by “putting yourself in someone else’s shoes.” Empathy is a useful skill to practice because it both requires and fosters emotional intelligence; EI is required to relate fully to another person and is developed further through this process. It is recommended to cultivate compassion for others when developing empathy. It can be an uncomfortable experience, one which people may resist or tense up against.

Active listening

Activate listening can help conversational partners interact in more meaningful ways. It offers people space to explore their feelings, disclose important information, and feel like they are heard, validated, and cared for. Joseph Topornycky has identified some fundamental attributes of active listening (2016). These include:

• Being non-judgmental: Reserving judgment allows speakers to exercise freedom in exploring and expressing their ideas and feelings.
• Patience: Being patient when somebody is speaking, and not rushing them or interrupting them, is crucial for them to feel heard and understood.
• Minimal encouragers: These are small indications of engagement, such as nods and smiles, as well as words like yep, mm-hmm, uh-huh, and more.
• Questions: Asking the person questions will show that you are interested in what has been said and are engaged enough to want to know more.
• Summaries: It can be a useful bonding behaviour to repeat what the person has just said back to them, but in different words.

Assertiveness

Assertiveness is often be perceived as rudeness, however, if the person communicating in an assertive way maintains a compassionate undertone, it is very effective for improving EI and self-esteem. Many people lack EI because they were never taught or encouraged to explore their emotions and express their feelings. By learning to express ourselves truthfully and appropriately, a person can validate themselves, protect themselves and set boundaries with others (Makino, 2010).

One way to practice this is through role playing with a counsellor or someone you trust. You can also practice by yourself, playing the role of both parties in an interaction. Practice expressing what is most important for you in a conversation and express the emotion e.g., “I feel worthless, like nobody cares about my opinion” and then offer yourself assurance as if you are the other person e.g., “I really value your opinion, and I am interested in hearing it.”).

If you’re someone who hasn’t been able to assert your needs, wants or feelings in the past, you may feel rude initially. Like I always tell my clients,

1. self-awareness is always the first step so you may need to spend time meditating, educating yourself, or reflecting on what it is you’re feeling, what you want or need. The second step is to:
2. identify what you think or feel you need to do
3. allow that to be there (try not to resist your reality – what we resist persists)
4. make an intention to ask for your needs or wants – or express your emotions with language
5. act on your intention

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