Joy or happiness can motivate us to join in, take part, flourish, share, be a part of, repeat these activities. Fear can motivate us to get away, hide, flee, run, keep ourselves or others safe. It protects us. Sadness can motivate us to withdraw, ruminate, cry, heal, express hurt, seek comfort and bond with others.… Continue reading Emotions: Function and Motivation
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Quality Social Connections (Relationships)
Did you know that through a series of controversial (and incredibly sad) experiments, psychologist Harry Harlow, was able to demonstrate the importance of early attachments, affection, and emotional bonds on the course of healthy development. Harlow discovered that love and affections may be primary needs that are just as strong as or even stronger than… Continue reading Quality Social Connections (Relationships)
Addiction Theories
There have been various theories and models proposed over time to help us understand why individuals use alcohol and other drugs, and why some people become dependent or ‘addicted’ but not others. The following are several models or theories of addiction. They reflect the political, medical, spiritual, and social forces of those times in history.… Continue reading Addiction Theories
The difference between Selfishness and Self-Centeredness.
Loneliness
Love
Fear and anxiety
When our intelligent and necessary emotion – ANGER – becomes unhealthy and damaging
The function of anger is to protect vulnerability and neutralize threat. The threat humans cognitively perceive is almost always to the ego i.e., how we want to think of ourselves and have others think of us. Anger neutralizes ego-threat by devaluing, demeaning, or undermining the “power” of the person perceived to be threatening. Humans get angry… Continue reading When our intelligent and necessary emotion – ANGER – becomes unhealthy and damaging
Self-absorption, self-obsession, the need for validation from others, toxic vanity, being in the spotlight … the list goes on. Please do not judge yourself if you possess any of the mentioned characteristics – however, I would encourage you to investigate if your self-worth and esteem are contingent on how others’ perceive you. Ideally, our self-worth comes from within. We do not need to seek it outside of ourselves. When you find yourself doing so, pause, and offer yourself what you need.
“Never be a prisoner of your past. Your past is a lesson, not a life sentence” – Robin Sharma
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Toxic Shame and the Gifts of Healthy Shame.
Think about what it means to be human. Yes, we have internalised toxic levels of pressure to be a certain way. We also know, as we mature, that being a certain way it complete bull shit and nonsense. I saw a quote once that said “Can you remember who you were, before the world told you who you should be?” -Charles Bukowski.… Continue reading Toxic Shame and the Gifts of Healthy Shame.
Are you feeling Restless, Irritable, and Discontent?
I would infer that you may be depleted in some area of your life. Generally, when I am having any of these experiences I can recognise that my basic needs, and possibly even transformative, needs are not met. My basic needs are food and water, adequate sleep, shelter and safety, social connection (belonging), and esteem… Continue reading Are you feeling Restless, Irritable, and Discontent?
Addiction – Overconsuming – Self Obsession – Power and Greed – Instant Gratification – People Pleasing – Popularity – Co-dependency – Avoidance – Isolation
What is your intention? Why “will power” is often not enough.
Adapted from AIPC (2022), Institute Inbrief, Issue 363. Oftentimes, a brand new year is used like a clean slate. We can do this any time throughout the year, however, I understand that there is an added element of our “collective consciousness” in the universal atmosphere motivating us with some renewed energy and will. At this… Continue reading What is your intention? Why “will power” is often not enough.
If we’re honest with ourselves, we know if a relationship isn’t working, if it is abusive or hurtful, or if it has run it’s course. We can ask trusted family and friends for their opinion if we’re confused or unsure.
Domestic Violence line (24 hours) 1800 65 64 63 Domestic violence services and support contact list | Family & Community Services (nsw.gov.au)
How often do you feel lonely?
Dr Rangan Chatterjee chats with Dr Gabor Maté about his radical findings based on decades of work with patients. We’re currently living in a culture that doesn’t meet our human needs. Maté and Chatterjee delve into how our emotional stress can translate into physical chronic illnesses, and how loneliness and a lack of meaningful connection… Continue reading How often do you feel lonely?
You attract what you are, not what you want. The Universe always balances itself out. Hence, Yin and Yang is everywhere we look and everywhere we cannot see.
What we think about, we bring about.
Fear and Love, with Tara Brach
I strongly encourage viewers, readers, and interested friends to visit Tara’s website Tara Brach – Meditation, Psychologist, Author, Teacher. So much of what I consider to be true and helpful is the wisdom I have learned from Tara Brach, an American psychologist, author, and proponent of Buddhist meditation – but more than that, she is… Continue reading Fear and Love, with Tara Brach
